16 Years of Diet [Hello Counselor / 2017.01.16]

16 Years of Diet [Hello Counselor / 2017.01.16]

This story is called “The Way She Tortures Me”. Hello. I’m in my 20s. I find my house uncomfortable. She’s blunt about the way she refers to her home. She must hate it very much. I always walk on eggshells at home because of my sensitive sister who’s always on a diet. – My sister always says… / – “If I try to eat,” “please stop me. You must stop me no matter what.” As she asked, I’d tell her, “You’re on a diet.” “Did you finish 600g of pork neck alone?” (Is it zero calorie if it’s delicious?) – 600g is about four servings. / – It’s four servings. – 150g is 1 serving. / – It’s about 3.5 servings. “I endured so long. Why do you give me so much stress?” If I remain silent… “Hey, I told you to stop me.” – “Don’t you care even if I get fat?” / – How annoying. (How annoying.) When I skip a meal because I don’t feel like eating, “Sister, I really want to eat meat right now.” “Can you eat it for me instead?” “I don’t want to eat anything right now.” “Won’t you eat it for me?” “Don’t ever talk to me again!” I ended up eating until my stomach was upset. What’s that? Due to my sister who’s been on a diet for 16 years, I’ve also been worried for 16 years. Please set me free. (Please stop my sister.) I also made my sister eat the food I wanted to have. – Really? / – Yes. It’s because seeing others eat… As a vicarious satisfaction? – It makes me happy when I’m hungry. / – Right. I think women will empathize with me. – Even just smelling makes me feel good. / – Then, don’t you end up eating as well? No. You must restrain from eating, as you’re on a diet. That’s why you have no choice but to become sensitive. Do you show your irritation like her? I don’t think I showed my irritation. To overcome your hunger, you make your sister fat. Ayoung, how do you lose weight? When I exercise, I get more appetite. So I was the heaviest when I worked out the most. – Exercise made you eat more. / – Right. So I don’t exercise. I just starve myself. Kim Hyesoo has never exercised in her whole life. – Really? / – She doesn’t exercise to lose weight. – She controls her weight with what she eats. / – Yes. (Her secret is controlling the diet.) You won’t believe it, but I exercised until I lost my toenail. – She’s telling the truth. / – I’m telling the truth. – But… / – You can guess how much she eats. (This is her being in good shape.) She exercises unbelievably hard to keep that shape. He’s right. I gain weight easily. You look like you lost some weight. – It’s because she lost her toenail. / – Me? (She lost her toenail, not weight.) Let’s bring in the guest. Please come on out. (Who’s the girl with a weight-conscious sister?) (Ko Ara) (She’s really thin.) Has your sister really been on a diet for 16 years? My sister weighs about 82kg – right now. / – You didn’t have to reveal that. – She’s about 163cm tall. / – I see. Since middle school, she’s been going to oriental doctors and diet clinics. She’s been doing different exercises, too. She tried going to the gym, swimming, yoga, taekwondo, boxing, – dancing… / – Goodness. She sometimes eats one sweet potato for a whole day. – That’s too much. / – There are times when she only eats once in every eight hours. She’s trying so hard. Has she never been successful? You said she’s been on a diet for 16 years. – But if what you said is true / – Yes. – she must / – You can’t weigh more than 80kg – when you eat one potato a day. / – have succeeded. (Yeongja speaks from experience.) – That doesn’t make sense. / – Yes. Of course, she has succeeded. She once lost more than 10kg. There was a time when she lost almost 20kg. That took her six months to one year. But when she hits her goal weight, she thinks – she can eat again. / – She eats again. – She loses it. / – In one or two months, she gains it back. When she starts eating, she does grocery shopping. – How much does she spend? / – About 100 dollars. She gets 600g of pork belly, 600g of pork neck, tteokbokki, fried chicken, chocolate, ice cream, and – No way. / – chips. Then she eats them all in one day. (That’s one meal for her sister.) After eating those, she throws up and sleeps. – That’s exhausting. / – Her sister must feel bad. If she gets fat with her, she would feel not as bad. – Right. / – You’re thin, but she’s heavy. I think she would feel jealous as a girl. I’ve been on a diet too. That’s why I can understand her. But she tortures me. – She must be very grumpy. / – She’s angry. By ventilating her anger on the family, she feels bad, and she gets into fights with the family. Let’s meet her sister. Hello. – Hello. / – Hello. Do you understand what she’s worried about? She helps me a lot, so I was thankful to her. I never thought it would be tough for her. Ara must’ve never complained, I guess. – What’s your weight loss goal? / – I want to lose – a minimum of 10kg. / – Minimum of 10kg. When was the time you lost the most weight? It was when I weighed 67kg. – She’s beautiful. / – She was beautiful. (She was thin.) She looks lovely. Are there more? (She looks confident.) The one on the left is filtered. How did you feel when you lost 20kg? – You must’ve been very thrilled. / – I was thrilled. I bought clothes from a street shop for the first time. They all fit me well. I was so thrilled. – It was slightly big, too. / – Right. Why couldn’t you maintain that perfect weight? I wanted to be compensated for my hard work. – You wanted to give yourself a gift. / – Yes. But when I start eating, I can’t stop and I get out of control. You just need to maintain it. You have to eat slow. She doesn’t only go on a binge but also eats fast. When you eat fast, you don’t – feel full easily. / -You don’t get the signal. – Is that what happens to you? / – Yes. – Do you eat fast? / – Yes. How fast can you eat 600g of pork belly? – In 30 to 40 minutes. / – She’s slower than me. Can you finish 600g in that time? It takes exactly 25 minutes for me. How much have you eaten in a day? I once went to Busan. I ate for nine straight hours. – Is that without a break? / – Right. Didn’t you go to the bathroom? – How much did you eat then? / – Wait. – Stop. / – Yes, stop. I had pork gukbap upon arrival and drank coffee. I went to eat spicy tteokbokki – You need to eat that. / – and ate that. I had another cup of coffee and ate sashimi. – That’s Busan. / – Then, we went to a pub and ate fried ham. – Fried ham. / – Yes. It’s really delicious. We then ate beef… – It’s good even as it is. / – Beef salad. – It’s really good. / – It has to be good. After eating beef salad, we ate Nakgopsae. – Nakgopsae. / – We ate fried rice too. – Did you eat that? / – After that, we drank alcohol. Then, we went to Kkangtong Market – and ate multteok and bibim naengmyeon. / – In a day? – Then, we ate parfait. / – You ate parfait too. – We then ate nuts hotteok. / – It’s amazing – that she remembers everything. / – Hey. – Hey. / – She’s amazing. How can you memorize everything? We had a list of things to eat. – She wrote down what to eat. / – Right. She managed to eat them all. I can understand her love for food. But I don’t understand why she forces her sister to eat. She thinks you get vicarious satisfaction from it. Because I can’t eat, when my sister eats, I feel satisfied. I don’t feel sorry though. She eats well. Your sister says you eat well. We’re six years apart. – We’re six years apart. / – Please speak up a little. We’re six years apart. (There’s hair on her face.) She… (Sweet Taejoon takes care of it.) (I don’t want her to be uncomfortable.) Please fix her bangs too. (Her heart flutters.) Her heart is pounding. Please fix her bangs too. (There’s unexpected sweetness in the air.) (Look at these two.) (Chanwoo fixes her hair too.) Why are you doing this to me? (She hates it.) She said, “Why are you doing this to me?” (Oh, dear.) I was just being sweet. (I was too nervous.) She was in high school when I was in elementary school. I tried talking back and fighting, but I couldn’t do anything when she’s upset. She forces me to exercise with her. – She forces you to work out. / – Yes. – She forces you to work out. / – I’d hate that. She takes me to her yoga class. She has to go to work, so we have to leave for yoga class at 6 a.m. – Is that to go to yoga class? / – Yes. There’s no bus, so we walk 30 minutes to get there. Then, we do yoga for two hours. – You do it for two hours. / – It’s really boring. My shoulders got too big now. – You gained muscles. / – You made her a warrior. (It’s the reward of her hard work.) Usually, when a guest is worried, – people around the guest are also worried. / – Yes. – My mother is worried. / – Is she? She’s as worried as I am. – Is that right? / – Yes. I have three children. But we can’t eat together. Why can’t you eat together? What happens? She always gets too much rice, and her spoon is as big as a shovel. I’m sorry, dear. She’s very unmoved. I tell her, “Don’t scoop too much rice.” (Then, she gives her mother this look.) She does this. Then, she says I should stop stressing her out because it makes her eat more and get fatter. It’s not comfortable to eat with her. It not only destroyed our family’s harmony but also our family’s finance. She goes to all sorts of clinics to lose weight, and it all comes out of my pocket. – You pay for everything. / – I see. I’m on my own. So it was hard for me to raise three children. – It must’ve been tough. / – They’ve been students most of the time. She’s been on a diet for 16 years. Approximately how much did you spend on her? It would amount to more than 15,000 dollars. Yes, it would. You raised your three children alone. How did you manage to afford to pay everything? – I slept less than other people. / – Goodness. – I worked three jobs in a day. / – Oh, my. – She’s amazing. / – That’s how I managed. – I drove a motorcycle in snow during the winter. – You drove a motorcycle? – I delivered green vegetable juices. / – Goodness. (She’s done everything for her children.) You should’ve understood the financial struggle. Why did you burden your mother so much? I don’t spend money on other things. I’m thrifty. I know that she’s working hard to help me. So I make the most out of every exercise session. You tried hard, but you gained your weight back. You say you try hard, but you keep repeating to lose weight and to gain weight. It must be very frustrating for your mom. Why don’t you eat what you want to eat and relax a bit to make yourself happier? Wouldn’t that be better for both you and your family? Don’t you think so? I’ve tried giving up. But something happened. Last year when I lost weight, I went on a blind date. I ended up dating the man I met on the blind date. While dating for two to three months, we ate a lot. I ended up gaining weight. Then, the guy said I didn’t look like a woman when I got fat. – Goodness. / – He said that. He neglected me. (Her boyfriend hurt her feelings.) Then, we broke up. – Going on dates makes you eat. / – But if he’s someone who talks to you like that whether you’re fat or not, you’re better off without him. So it turned out well for you. Are you losing weight to date someone then? I wouldn’t say it’s just to date someone. – But I can’t deny it either. / – Right. My friends get picked up – by their boyfriends after we hang out. / – Right. But I go home alone, and that makes me depressed. It sounds like it’s not as simple as just losing weight. For me, food isn’t something that fills my stomach. For me, food fills my soul. My mother never cooked for me. She was busy working. We only got to eat after we closed our store. When we finally ate, we got sleepy and went to bed. It was a vicious cycle. I want to hear more about her. – Yes. / – Like what Yeongja said, perhaps there’s a different reason for wanting to lose weight. My dad always bullied me that I’m fat. – Your dad did. / – Yes. When we were eating, he used to tell me not to eat. – How old were you? / – Since you were young. – Since I was in primary school. / – Right. – He yelled at me. / – He told you not to eat. He took my table away when I was eating. – Goodness. / – That’s sad. – That’s so sad. / – She has a deep resentment. Do you think that made you eat more? Yes. I eat when I’m stressed. Also, my dad used to adore my sister. – You have a feeling of loss. / – I do. I think I thought of food as a means to relieve stress. When I’m eating, I feel happy. – I see. / – Right. (Her self-esteem hit rock bottom at an early age.) (It made her obsessed about weight.) (She’s losing herself and her happiness.) Now that you’ve heard her, do you understand her better? Of course, I do. That’s why I always feel sorry for her and I can never get too upset at her. Because of that, I can’t be too strict with her. – Goodness. / – Tell us what you remember. What happened when she was eating? Tell us when you felt sorry for her. I was busy working, so she took care of her siblings. They were very young. She changed their diapers. – How lovely she is. / – To compensate her for that, I didn’t cook for her but I ordered food for her. – I bought her galbi and pizza. / – Right. – You fed her delivery food. / – Yes. She must’ve starved while babysitting all day. So she would eat the food and fall asleep right away. That made her gain all the weight. On top of that, her dad kept telling her that she’s fat and she should stop eating. You told her to stop eating when she got fat. Yes. (She blames herself for everything.) (Ara becomes emotional too.) It hurts me that my mom feels sorry for my sister. She worked three jobs, and she did everything to raise us well. But now… – I’m sorry. / – It’s okay. (She feels sorry and gets overwhelmed.) It’s sad to think about what she has gone through. – Yes. / – You feel sorry. You raised your daughters well. They’re lovely. – I know. They’re very good. / – Goodness. One time, she collapsed while riding her motorcycle because of overworking. Her face collapsed, and she got a big surgery for that. She really did her best. But she still blames herself – that everything is her fault. / – Right. I feel so sorry. (She’s sorry to her mom as her child.) It seems like weight isn’t the only problem here. It looks like the problem is more complex. Don’t you think it’s unfair that your family has to suffer because you want to lose weight? I think I expected them to understand. – You expected it. / – Yes. They’re my family. It’s actually very frustrating. I say this sometimes. You’re desperate to lose weight, but you can’t. You keep blaming it on others. You lack self-love. I hope you’ll love yourself a little more. This is a new year. It would be nice to change for the better. – I don’t want to hate myself anymore. / – Right. I want to lose weight to stop torturing myself. I want to be a lovely daughter to my mom and an awesome big sister to my sister. Do you hate yourself for being fat? I don’t look at the mirror. – Really? / – Yes. (Does she want to deny herself?) – She lacks self-esteem. / – You have to look. – You’re lovely. / – Only then you can lose weight. You have to look at yourself to be lovelier. Right now, you give up on yourself. The problem is your negative mindset. From what we heard, it sounds like her life is focused on only two things. – They’re losing weight and eating. / – That’s right. Are you interested in any other things? I never thought about anything else. (It’s not too late.) Since you’ve been watching her, you must have something to say about her talent. She must be good at something. She dances well. – Does she? / – She sings well too. – She must have a sense of rhythm. / – Yes. – Does she sing well too? / – She does. Because she’s the first child, she has leadership. She majored in hotel cooking. – Hotel cooking. / – She must cook well. She even cooks well. She’s really good at cooking. She cooked too much for herself. – Why… / – She’s good at many things. What do you think your daughter’s good at? She maintains good relationships with people. She doesn’t have many flaws other than being chubby. She is very pretty. – Her eyes are big. / – She’s cute. I want to tell her this. You can’t date anyone long without your own charms. It’s the same whether you meet a guy or friends. For other people to see your charms, – you can’t be too daunted. / – Of course. You have to be confident. Don’t meet a guy who talks nonsense. – There are many nice guys out there. / – Yes. They will surely approach you. – What do you think about Yeongja? / – Hey. There are a few celebrities I like. They are Lee Gukjoo and her, and she’s my favorite. She’s a confident fatty. (That’s a compliment, right?) That’s right. She’s right. – She’s CF. / – Confident fatty. I think she’s amazing for not getting daunted by her looks and staying confident. She expresses her opinion confidently. Where do you think she gets the confidence from? I’m not sure. Please teach me, Yeongja. Teach her where you get your confidence. I’ve always blamed everything on my fat body and my ugly looks. I also have that victim mentality. I blame myself. I felt like I was a frog trapped in the well. I was really surprised one time. There are heavy comedians like Kim Minkyoung and Gukjoo. I thought they’d never get to date guys. But they were dating two men at the same time. What are you talking about? – We don’t want to know. / – Right. I was really surprised. I thought men would see me as a woman if I weigh about 58kg. But that was my standard. The most important thing is destroying your thoughts. Losing weight is not the important thing here. – You have to destroy your thoughts first. / – Yes. Your thinking is wrong. Everything evolves around your weight right now. Will you always be the victim of the sense of shame your father has given you? Will you live the life your father created for you? No. We’re not minors anymore. You can plan your own life. You have to shape yourself. I think I have to do what you said. Of course. – Will you begin now? / – Yes. I won’t rely on my mom anymore. I’ll take care of my finances. This year, I’ll make sure to lose weight so that we get to go swimming together in summer. (We’ll cheer for you!) What do you want to say to your sister? It hurts me to watch you having no self-esteem. I hope this year you’ll grow to love yourself more. – and become more confident. / – Of course. Happy New Year. (We hope to see you on Hello News later.) Ayoung, tell us if it’s a worry or not. I think she’s not psychologically well. She’s too worn off inside. I think it would take time to cure that. I think you can find happiness elsewhere. – So it’s not a worry. / – No. If she changes her way of thinking, she will succeed her diet this year. So I don’t think it is a worry. Kim Heeae’s wish is to eat a whole chocolate pie. How many times did that wish come true for us? Think positively. If you sympathize with her worry, press the button. (What does the audience think?) – In five, four, / – In five, four, – three, two, one. / – three, two, one. – Stop. / – All right. Let’s see how many votes she got. Please reveal the results. “The Way She Tortures Me”. What’s the last number? (The last number is eight.) Is it over 100? There are 200 people here. She got 88 votes. (88 votes)

100 thoughts on “16 Years of Diet [Hello Counselor / 2017.01.16]

  1. i feel there is a problem with the hosts of this shown too. they said "she looked pretty" they said this when they showed a pic of the girl when she was thin. so what are they trying to say? that she looks ugly now that she gained weight? goodness these people should be encouraging. what if the girl felt hurt by hearing she was pretty back then. even the female host of this show always says (when fat people come on the show) that they looked pretty when they were thin. you'd think she would be the understanding one since they always pick on her for her weight but nah, she is just as bad

  2. Losing weight is always hard…especially if you face internal pressure from yourself and external pressure from the people around you. That's why she needs to have more love and respect for herself first, if she doesn't even trust that she can do it, no one can help her through this journey. Weight is just a number on the scale, it doesn't define who you are and what you are capable of.

  3. Losing weight is always hard…especially if you face internal pressure from yourself and external pressure from the people around you. That's why she needs to have more love and respect for herself first, if she doesn't even trust that she can do it, no one can help her through this journey. Weight is just a number on the scale, it doesn't define who you are and what you are capable of doing.

  4. Fighting! I used to weigh over 90 kg and I lost over 20 kg. By eating healthy, eating lesser, and exercising more, there is no way you will not lose weight and get leaner if you stay consistent and dedicated. Its not just about feeling better and having more confidence, which you dont necessarily need to lose weight for, but your body will thank you when you get healthier. : )

  5. im an Asian. My weight is a bit heavier than my group of friends. their weight range is around 44-60 kg and im 63kg with the height of 169cm. But i never tried starving myself just to slim down. i would rather go to gym and slim down, this is much more healthier but being the lazy me i kept procrastinating 😂

  6. She clearly isn't dieting right. You are suppose to eat healthy and limit certain foods. If you starve yourself then obviously you will gain the weight back. And if they have all that money to go to useless clinics then why don't she get liposuction? If she can get her double eyelid surgery then she can also get liposuction

  7. Bruh how could the mom say she doesn't have any flaws besides being chubby?? Being chubby isn't a flaw it's just weight as long as u r at a healthy weight u r fine

  8. eating much not the first reason why ppl getting fat, but how their doing activities every day. if you just stay at home and eat 3 times a day u will fat, but if u hv alot activities and eat like 4 times a day it's fine.

  9. I'm not an expert but what people need to understand more about losing weight is don't look at the scale. Most of our weight are muscles etc. Even if you consider yourself thin or skinny, high fat percentage is unhealthy. When you exercise, do it for health and your own wellness. As for myself, I'm overweight but trying hard this year to shed those unnecessary fats. Eat the right things. If you don't eat, your body will go into starvation mode which resulted your body to store more fats. Goodluck to those that aim for much healthier lifestyle and love yourself 🙂

  10. She looked SO damn good when she was around 60kg… unfortunately in Korea a lot of females are in the 40 or 50 kg sector… its just too much stress to keep up with a society thats focused in appearance…ACTUAL people are killing themselves by starving because of this.

    Females MUST MUST MUST be happy with the skin theyre in. Dont be a certain weight because everyone else is. Set an example for the younger generation.

  11. Sigh the irony… In my own country, Nigeria I always get comments like: "you need to eat more you're too skinny." Being fat in Nigeria is seen as being a wealthy person. In the Netherlands I got treated the same way. People would be saying things like:"dont your parents have money to feed you?" Stuff like that. So I thing it's everywhere, just like how it's now "a thing" to have big butt and thick lips (also due to social media). Am sorry but this is happening all over the world 😞

  12. This video makes me realize how lucky I am and that no matter how much I eat, I technically never gain weight. I am over 170 (5"7 inches) centimeters and weigh 51 kilograms (112 lbs), and honestly thought I was overweight until I went to a school nurse. I'm really glad that I ended up with a body that can put up with my irregular eating patterns and overwhelming consumption of sugar. But then again, I need to have good eating habits or else it may destroy my health.

  13. It's so scary how Korea thinks that Starving Diet is ok when it's not!!! Restricting calories is the hardest diet ever… and she's not going to lose weight because she will continue to binge eat. If someone restricts her diet to a potato, she'll be malnourished and the body will keep everything she eats instead. The starving diet tells the body "I don't have enough food, please store this for me to survive!!".

    Instead of the starving diet, I think more people should be open to the Ketogenic Diet. Ketogenic diet allows you to be full, thus shrinking your stomach in the process and absolutely no starving. Its the process of using fats instead of carbohydrate as energy. It's the most successful diet that most people can follow so far.

  14. isn't it kinda funny that she's old and still depending from her parents. Also, if she wants to get thin she can still eat what she wants. She can have a cheat day or something and eat in proportion 6x a day. I think she doesn't have a clear goal and not that determined. 16 years of diet is too long.

  15. I've been diagnosed with an eating disorder and literally have done all the things she's done.
    I think Korea is really slow at diagnosing mental problems and just categories it as "Oh she's dieting", "Oh he's a little weird", "Oh. they're a little anti social". Like I love this show and I know they're not doctors and shouldn't be speaking so loosely, but I've seen people with symptoms of depression, eating disorders, ocd, etc. I'm no doctor either, but if the situation is serious enough it shouldn't be brushed off as "A diet".

  16. … if you want to lose weight just exercise and stop eating like a horse. you should eat more healthy food (maintain how much carbo you eat for a day and do not eat to much food that contain fat). do exercise more, make you have more fit and healthier..

    and one thing is, stop to starve yourself,that's not good for you.

  17. i really dont think she is that big in the first place and despite that everyone here says how this is a korean problem when in fact every society favours a thinner body-ok even though asian cultures might do so more-and looks at every country play a big role so dont get all bitter about s.korea all of a sudden

  18. taejoon is a natural heart breaker. He fixed her hair because he's super nice. like when they panned to his face, there was no mischievous look…just adorableness. if they hadn't made a big deal about it, he would have just moved on with his life. he's the same age as my younger sister but he's 5x nicer than she is lol

  19. If you want to keep fit and lose weight you should be consistent and keep on track this is included your food. In losing weight 70% is from your kitchen and 30% is workout/exercise If she couldn't control herself over food then it her fault and she shouldn't dragged other into it. You gaining weight is your own problem because it start from you. Dragging people into your diet and exercise is same like you blamed them for your weight issues. It's alright if you ask people to help you monitor your diet and keep you company while doing exercise but then drag them in without their willingness is same like you force them. Stop eating like there is no tomorrow. She lost 20kg is something really amazing. From there, she should have maintain and control her food. Everyone love food there is no exceptional. But no one eat more than 10 heavy meal in just one day like that day going to be your last day. You should love yourself and appreciate your hard works.

  20. You guys should look up the history of many Asian countries including Asia and figure out why Asians have such views on who and what is beautiful, weight etc…
    Judgd a culture after learning about it 😉

  21. When the tv host asked the single mother how she earned enough money, I thought she said:
    "I slept with a lot of people" not "I slept less than others"
    lololololololol sorry!! 😂😆

  22. Just so y'all know… in Asia looks is quite important. Girls especially will go through anything to look skinny and pale. Sadly I'm sort of part of that. Only the pale part tho… I love eating.

  23. This sounds like she has bulimia. I sympathize with her, i think it was very mean of her sister to reveal so much about her like that. She should get proper medical help before it gets worse.

  24. God bless Dongyeop for telling her that was the ex-boyfriend's problem. Like seriously, she shouldn't lose weight to find a man she should find a man that loves her no matter what.

  25. I'm so god damn tired of people calling eating disorders a diet. I'm Asian and have always lived in a household where mental illness has never been a big concern. And these shows with their ignorance towards mental illnesses frustrate me because it does nothing to help the issue that Korea and the rest of asia have regarding mental illness, specifically eating disorders. This is why people with eating disorders in Asia done get treatment.

  26. Being extremely skinny is so desired in the Korean Society that the line between a diet and eating disorder becomes blurred. Yes, if you are overweight or are not happy with your body it's ok to lose a bit of weight to make yourself feel more healthy. But when you are judged completely on your looks it is hard to stop the desire of loosing more. She most definitely has an eating disorder. She needs actual help, not just advice from some people on a TV show.

  27. I've seen some concerns for both male and females regarding eating disorder, depression, anxiety, fear. It'll be good if the show brings in a professional as well on the show for these concerns.

  28. I can relate with the sister. It helps my dieting when I see other people eat. For busy people like me, starving is the only option to lose weight, too, so I understand K-pop stars.

  29. she just has to focus on things other than dieting and losing weight while not going to the extremes, like starving to bingeing. Just maintain a relatively healthy diet with occasional naughty foods and control portions and move around a little and drink enough water. a lot of calories can come from drinks! and staying positive would be awesome too. and if u have things to do other than dieting, ur mind will stay off of food and u won't be eating during that period! (intermittent fasting even if it's just for a couple hours)

  30. Omg cho tae joon my heart missed a beat when he fixed her hair anyway I can really relate to diet and the struggle upon it

  31. When their mother said something about good on her elder daughter but her flaw is being "chubby", i disagree.

    Eommeonim, being fat isn't a flaw. I think even you discouraged your daughter like her father did, in your own way. Yes, let's consider your hardwork for your daughters' finances, but it doesn't mean you can say stuff like that to her. What matters is her self-confidence. Being fat is not a flaw.

  32. I was watching many hello counselor ep. And im getting to think that my parents are horrible too 😂
    They dont let me go out bcuz im a girl and i have to hang out with my friends behing their back. I have eating disorder bcuz of my dad(he tells me that im fat) when i have good grades they dont care. They rarely compliment me. I can't date and go outside after 6-5 pm. They dont let me study in what i want. Im interested in art (dance/Singing/camera) but they want me to become a doctor or whatever 😂😂 anyway

  33. I eat a small breakfast and a big lunch everyday and skip dinner and when i was hungry i would only eat apples and water as a snack it helped me lose weight 🙂

  34. I loved Taejoon before this ,I didn't know it was possible for me to love him even more than I did before,he's such a sweetheart ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  35. Even the female celebrity says she just starves herself? is starving yourself so acceptable and common in Korea??

  36. This is an eating disorder. Rather than diets, the first thing she needs is therapy. It's super frustrating to see people commenting on their ways of dieting when nobody asked. It's a well known fact that diets are useless without exercise. When you diet or eat too little, you starve the muscles and the food you eat ends up turning completely into fat. I can confirm this because it took me 3 years of consistent exercise to lose 50 lbs

  37. Everyone always thinks that Koreans are naturally thin, which isn’t true, perhaps we lean to a certain frame more, but we aren’t naturally skinny. Our culture actually promotes insane eating disorders, pushing girls to eat less, be frail and offer so many body loss clinics. This isn’t our bodies this is just hurtful cultural ideas against women. This is just an example of how insidious it’s treated, and it really destroys us girls. I have an eating disorder partly because my family makes fun of my frame (I am half korean and my body frame is closer to my fathers so I have naturally wider hips and chest) even though I am consider average and a smaller frame than most body types. At the very least I hope that this video opens more conversations about this and one day accept different body types.

  38. Yeah… let’s applaud this girl for not working out and not eating. Congratulations on your eating disorder. Why are they supporting that???

  39. the way that they talk about losing or maintaining weight is so unhealthy. They all basically admitted they just starve themselves.

  40. At first I was like "She just wants to eat and used diet as an excuse" but when she spoke of her childhood memory then it hit me.
    I stood at 138cm with a weight of 30kg until I was 10. I was told to eat and eat until I hate eating itself. I was told to constantly eat food and eat all kinds of weight gain pills and drinks because the doctors diagnosed me with anorexia. I was picked on for being too skinny since I was 4-5 ..Then the weight hit me when i turned 11. I was 161cm and 62Kg …and I was called fat. Not only I was a fat joke throughout elementary to high school with my peers…It didn't end at home. "Why are you fat?".."nobody in our generation is fat".."exercise and loose the weight".. When i went on a diet and try to eat healthy. "Eat these food"."why? Aunty (my dad's wife) cooking is so bad that you won't eat?" "ungrateful"….I got so pressured that at 15 I went on a "healthy diet" of eating only 500 cal of food in a day. This went on for a 2 months and I lost 20KG. But the joke didn't end. "why diet? you'll gain it all". "you diet?..there's more flabs here". So I turned to exercising and dieting and fasting…Its a roller coaster ride. I gained the weight slowly and lost about 18KG within 2 months while I was on my enlistment at 21. My dad passed away in 2016 and I lost about 16KG. I gained what I lost (Just like the girl say..you'll "reward" when you feel like you hit your ideal). 3 months ago, I brought adjustable bracelets for my wrists. I lost about 1.5 inches off of it and people still say "you gained weight".

    Yesterday I met my aunties and everyone told me I look significantly slimmer. I noticed.

  41. ok but, i used to have bulimia and this girl literally has traits of an ED… also 'i dont exercise i just starve myself'… excuse me? tf?

  42. that's why solely relying on diets is never the way to go. you can gain it back so quickly. What you want to do is not eat after you exercise (so exercise at like 8:30 ish and just drink water afterwards

  43. Ughhhh watching this is so absolutely frustrating. The fact that idols and actors are put on a pedestal to give weight loss advice when they have no education on the subject whatsoever besides their companies telling them to starve themselves is annoying. Just because a celebrity is thin doesn't mean that they achieved that look in a healthy manner. Yo-Yo dieting is promoted here and that is plain and simple. Healthyness should be a lifestyle. The way you achieve this is by exercising and eating foods that nourish your body. This doesn't mean that you can't go out to meet friends for dinner every once in a while or you can't treat your cravings. Restricting yourself and starving yourself is a sure fire way to end up binging once your body can't take it anymore. And the fact that that girl said that she stopped exercising because she weighed more and just starved herself instead smh no one on the stage even batted an eyelash at that. Your body requires a replenishment of energy after exercising, how much you weigh doesn't even matter. This concept that a woman is going to look like she-hulk if they exercise or lift weights is so false and I hate that people even in western society still believe that to be true. You would have to TRY and be in a caloric surplus in order to become super muscular. Women's bodies naturally will stay fairly slim. Stop letting celebrities who starve themselves be spokespeople for being slim. All of this information is based on simple research, literally all of the ignorance in this show could just be absolved with a simple google search. Ugh I have so much more I could say but I don't think I could make a comment that long… Just educate yourselves people. Western society is getting a bit better with learning about health but we're not perfect either. I hope Korea as well as other Asian societies do themselves a favor too and learn how to stay in shape the HEALTHY WAY. And LONG TERM. Health should be a lifestyle and not a diet 💪

  44. The best way to lose weight is
    and….to have healthy meals
    to exercise at home….
    I lost 11kg.
    -i’m sorry for my english,is not my first language.

  45. OH, BUDDY! I swear yeongja is the only sensible host in the show and what's up with few of them making fun of her.

  46. Thats what food asmr is for
    Don’t force other to eat if u really want to see and hear other eat ur fav food just watch them online

  47. You don't have to starve yourself, I used to weigh 85 and lost 25kg by eating healthy, avoiding high sugar snacks, and exercising regularly. It worked just fine and also improved my mental health

  48. 5:12 "she was beautiful"

    This is so wrong… have a little overweight doesn't make you ugly

    I mean this all episode have gone so far too cringe for me because it just reveal the ignorance that there is about eating disorder
    Like do you consider right that a person say " when i make a diet i just dont eat because if i do excersise i would gey bigger" nooo
    A healthy way to lose Weight is with exercise and a balance meal

  49. I forgot who the actress was that visited na eun and gun ho on the "Return of Superman." Na eun asked the actress if she had snacks. The actress said she was on a diet and she was ONLY eating carrots and cucumbers. The amount she brought with her was not even half a saucer.

  50. She needs a clinic that specialists in eating disorders. It seems like she binge eats. My heart goes out to her and I hope she gets some psychotherapy.

  51. I really loved how many positive characteristics her sister listed and her mother said other than her being overweight she has NO flaws.
    Thanks to the female host. Since she can relate, she had a lot of good advice. The start is to change her mindset. Again. IMO, an eating disorder clinic is the first step.
    I HATE the commentary from some of these ignorant people and the voting. How can these people not see this as a major concern? Obesity can lead to so many illnesses.

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